MAYBE SHE WOULD KNOW SHE’S BEAUTIFUL IF WE STOPPED ROMANTICIZING INSECURITY IN WOMEN AND WRITING ENTIRE SONGS TELLING THEM THEY REQUIRE VALIDATION FROM THE MALE GAZE TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES
I’M JUST FUCKING SAYING
But if she felt confident in herself, then she wouldn’t be “beautiful” anymore. Didn’t you listen to the lyrics? :P
The song basically sums up slut-shaming in a nutshell.
(Warning: my unsubstantiated theory ahead.)
I suspect that the core reason why so many guys don’t like girls to dress in skimpy outfits is because it shows that the woman has a fair amount of confidence in herself or, as they perceive it, vanity. This ruins the “game” for them, because part of the traditional courtship ritual is to help a woman feel valid with and only with the person who’s courting her. It establishes a sort of dependence and perhaps even allows the man to feel a kind of “ownership” of the woman, because she knows that if she leaves him she’ll go back to feeling worthless.
Now, mind you, I don’t think that most of this is done consciously. I don’t think the average guy wakes up in the morning and thinks, “Let me find a girl who feels really bad about herself and establish my dominance over by giving her life validity.” That said, the fact that so many guys are so offended by women breaking the established pattern by displaying confidence even without a man, or by being with multiple men, thus showing she’s not dependent on any one of them…well, I think that says something.
And I do think all this, on some level, feeds into rape culture. Those who claim that women “provoke” men by dressing in revealing outfits should, themselves, understand than men are not so base as to literally lose control at the sight of a beautiful woman, or, for that matter, never desire women wearing conservative clothes. Instead, I think many people subconsciously see rape as a sort of “punishment” for women who they consider too vain. It’s a way to “take them down a notch” and show them that the body they appear to be so proud of doesn’t really belong to them.